***ARCHIVED 7/22/08: FROM MYSPACE BLOG***
So I guess Oprah wrote something relating to men/women relationships and oh, I love the ending...
"Share this with other women and men (just so they know)"...JUST SO THEY KNOW?...OR...I like this better...Just so they can apply the same or similar principles THE OTHER WAY AROUND??? ;) HMMM...... She continues, "You'll make someone smile, another rethink her choices, and another woman prepared."
Wow. So I actually read the thing... There's nothing wrong with it at all...not at all. BUT, really....women get this kind of stuff all the time...where's the version for men? Why? Cuz they need the same or similar inspiration... At the end, I've included the original piece I got from a bulletin from my friend Denise, but first...my slightly edited version.. hahah...think about it...
(warning: some of it is serious, some funny...just read if you like...)
my MANSWERS VERSION (haha):
If a [wo]man wants you, nothing can keep h[er] away. If [s]he doesn't want you, nothing can make h[er] stay. Stop making excuses for a [wo]man and h[er] behavior. Allow your intuition [and logic] to save you from heartache [and headaches]. Stop trying to change yourself for [a beezy and] a ["]relationship["] that's not meant to be. Slower [then fast...then slow again..] is better. Never [ever] live your life for a [wo]man before you find what makes you truly happy [such as other people in your life, including other women, making money, work, and sports]. If a relationship ends because the [wo]man was not treating you as you deserve [then as long as she's apologized and you don't mind her friendship, it's okay, civilized people can still] "be friends". A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend [so have her make it up to you with a new suit, shoes, a fifth of your favorite premium liquor or a twelve pack, an HDTV plasma, and/or an xbox 360]. Don't settle. If you feel like [s]he is stringing you along, then [s]he probably is. Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. The only person you can control in a relationship is you. Always have your own set of friends separate from h[ers, but why would you hang out with her friends anyway?...okay maybe the hot ones]. Maintain boundaries in how a [chick] treats you. If something bothers you, speak up. Never let a [wo]man know everything. [She] will use it against you later. You cannot change a [wo]man's behavior. Change comes from within. Don't EVER [ever ever ever] make h[er] feel [s]he is more important than you are...even if [s]he has more education or in a better job [or is damn fine. There are tons of hot girls in the world. Especially if you're bringing your A game to the table, what else does she have to offer besides her looks?] [She] is a [wo]man, nothing more nothing less. Never let a [wo]man define who you are. Never borrow someone else's [wo]man [without her direct or implied consent]. If [s]he cheated with you, [s]he'll cheat on you, [so as long as you're cool with that, just have fun and leave it at that. Don't be a chump and expect her to be faithful to your dumbass]. A [wo]man will only treat you the way you ALLOW [her] to treat you. All [wo]men are NOT [bitches...she's actually really nice, you just might have NO GAME]. You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two way street. You need time to [relish in the single life] between relationships [or not have them at all until you're at the age where you think you might actually want to settle down for some odd reason]...there is nothing cute about baggage [unless it's a cool new man-bag]... Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you... a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals... look for someone complimentary...not supplementary. Dating is [great] fun...even if [s]he doesn't turn out to be [completely bangin' intellectually as well as physically]. Make [her] miss you sometimes [instead of leaving her 100 creepy texts, voicemails, and myspace comments a day]... when a [wo]man always knows where you are, and you're always readily available to h[er] - [s]he takes it for granted. Never move [in together]. Never co-sign for a [wo]man. Don't fully commit to a [wo]man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep h[er] in your radar but get to know others. Share this with other [men and women] (just so they know)... You'll make someone smile, another rethink h[is] choices, and another [man] prepared.
Don't get mad at me, I'm only the messenger...
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So Oprah wrote the following apparently.........
ORIGINAL BULLETIN/VERSION:
Oprah wrote this about men... If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be. Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends". A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend. Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. The only person you can control in a relationship is you. Always have your own set of friends separate from his. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later. You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job. He is a man, nothing more nothing less. Never let a man define who you are. Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. All men are NOT dogs. You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two way street. You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you... a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals... look for someone complimentary...not supplementary. Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right. Make him miss you sometimes... when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him - he takes it for granted. Never move into his mother's house. Never co-sign for a man. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others. Share this with other women and men (just so they know)... You'll make someone smile, another rethink her choices, and another woman prepared.
